Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Suggestive vs Opinionated... It's Hard For Me.

On the receiving end, that is.
Recently, it seems that I am surrounded by more "advice" than I have been in a couple of decades.
"So what are your plans for next year?"... greeted by eyes that start to squint, arms fold and body posture sinks into place.  Do tell, it better suit me, and here's what you should do.
On the other hand, there are two people who come to mind that are "suggestive",  offer up lots of ideas... some not so great, but some over the top good!  Alicia M.  was always one of these.  She had this knack, still does, for letting her mind wander and spout out any idea, always landing on a gem.
(years and years ago we did a table scape event in the shop... it was our biggest sales day ever, and yet we didn't sell anything that was on the tables... I still laugh at that)
The other is Carol.  When I'm too preoccupied to make a decision she steps up, throws it out there and is right on.
Frankly, I rambled on about hosting some kind of event to Carol years ago and I think I might have to credit her with a big part of that decision, which has turned into Viva's Vintage Market.

Recently in my Zumba class I was approached by a new student of a certain age,  that told me I did not make her sweat enough.  Again today, after her being at five classes she again approached me to "suggest" that I need to talk about shoes, knees, joints... certain "moves" that I do over and over, then she demonstrated those moves.
The thing is, I want to think I can be gracious and thank her for her  "opinions", but sometimes it's just hard. 
To a point she's dead wrong... that's all we used to talk about...safe moves.  Watch those knees, don't over do the shoulders, and you are responsible for your workout... step it up lady!  To a point, she's dead on... I should never relax and think students remember everything I tell them, just to avoid injury, and I should show different ways to do the moves, high energy and low
My issue with this woman is simple... she is aggressive in her "opinions" and they flow freely... yet she doesn't know me, and I want to strike back.
Suggestive Vs Opinionated.
In Zumba today the routine to "Pachuco" came on... again.
I mumbled in dead pan,  under my breath... "This is my favorite song, I know I play it every time, and I'm sorry"
From the front row, Jean said.. "you're the instructor, you can!"  Of course this strokes my ego.

It's a life lesson.
How do you handle an opinionated person, who thinks they are just being suggestive, but are strong and swift in their remarks pushing your every button to strike back?

Beer Festival... two gentlemen walked up to me (and when I say gentle, I could tell they were worked up, yet not used to confrontation and nervous).  They were correct in their opinion... which ended up being the perfect suggestion.  I could tell they awaited and dreaded confrontation, yet I was full on accepting and they weren't sure what to make of it.  I'm not sure that they believed I would follow through, but I will.

Then there's religion and politics.... no need to go there, but  I will say that I am always stunned at how people dig in, just to be right and to make a point.  I don't visit these areas, however I have strong beliefs and do not feel the need to force you to believe what I do.

Why is it that some people can suggest things and they ring just fine, yet some people force opinions.... that could be just the right ticket, yet the delivery is offensive?

How do you handle opinionated vs suggestive?

Do tell,

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Go Bo, We Need Some Serious Help.


See that kid?  He's doing what all our kids have and will do.  Jump off the Sister Bay dock.
They ride their bikes off, skate boards off, dive and flip... a lot of times to the alarm of tourists who aren't used seeing this free for all, but our kids know what they're doing.

 Here he is again, this picture was taken a while back.  He's with his Mom, Annika. She is the daughter, he is the grandson of the late and legendary Al Johnson... as in goats on the roof, Swedish pancakes, lingonberries and lutefisk.
Here is Bo last October.  A minor accident landed him in the hospital, where the Doctors discovered something very serious.
He spent months in the hospital, went through hell, and I mean the kind most of us might not survive,  and came out the other end in remission.
We were pumped.  This "Caring Bridge" website keeps us up to date on Bo's journey, usually written by Bo.  Quite eloquent.  After reading every post, I truly felt everything... everything he was going through... and sometimes it was precious, like talking about his Mom climbing in the hospital bed with him to watch movies.   Sometimes not precious as his Mom had to write the post because he was in so much pain.

Bo got to come home, go on the DC trip that all the kids of that age go on, and felt some pain.

I'm going to fast forward because this is so hard.
Bo is back in the hospital... he's grown since this picture quite a bit.  So handsome.
His situation is dire. 
The leukemia has come back and is in his bones.  I'm leaving out a lot of medical details, but it boils down to this.... his doctors have never seen this before, and they've contacted the who's who in the medical world and no one knows exactly how to treat it.
His Doctors gave him options... go home.  Live a life as you can for a short while, and then be kept comfortable until you pass.  (I cannot imagine the room when the DR's said this).
Or, go through the worst kind of treatment a human can imagine and have between a 1% and 20% chance of life.
Reading Annika's post on this was too much.  She told him not to do it for her, do it for him.

The Doctors are frustrated, pissed off, and reeling trying to give this kid every opportunity.
He has chosen life... has chosen to put himself through a gut wrenching, body debilitating, side effects that could last for 10 years, 1% to 20% chance to live.
A. Chance. To. Live.

Please, however you do it, lift him up.  In prayer, in energy, to the sky, to the heavens, open your hearts and arms to raise him up.


Friday, June 15, 2012


Eric Lewis, Tommy Burroughs, and the cook (Ben McMahon) playing at John's pre-Fest party last night.

A while back, my husband thought it would be really neat to host a dinner in our barn.
Invite lots of people in the community who are involved in food and farming, or who own small businesses that are important in keeping Door County vibrant.
Brit and Sarah Unkefer of  the Wild Tomato catered the event and focused on using only locally sourced foods.  The menu was adventurous and not what the Tomato typically serves in their restaurant.
The best part was my boys were there hands on and involved in almost every aspect of it.
The upside of moving home...
I'll do a post so you can see how we decorated the barn (so sweet), and just the neatest story.
Above are local favorites Eric Lewis and Tommy Burroughs, and Ben snuck out of the cook spot long enough to enchant us all with a number.
Later this week, I'll tell you how we pulled it off and maybe you'll be inspired to do the same.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

French Glassware

Our favorite glasses are in.
Water, wine... beer!
It all tastes better out of charming glasses.

Monday, June 11, 2012

Door County Beer Festival, or My Life Upside Down!

Maybe you know, or maybe you don't.
My husband and son decided Door County needed a proper beer festival. 
Fast forward, and here we go... this Saturday!
This is no drunk, fall down fest.  This is all about the brew.  Quality, hand crafted in small batches kinds of brews.  Tasting.  And seminars.
Welcome Kyle Cherek, host of the television show "Wisconsin Foodie"
Kyle will be sharing his stories and food adventures from around the state.
I met him... it was kind of surprising how approachable and friendly he is.... and passionate about food.  You'll love him. 

Kyle Cherek
Other seminars include:

  • Robin Shepard, author of "Wisconsin's Best Breweries and Brew Pubs: Searching for the Perfect Pint"
  • Pairing Wisconsin Artisan Cheeses and Hinterland Beer
  • Freestyle Brewing with O'so Brewing Company
  • Capital Brewery's Door County Connection
  • Cherries and Beer, a Door County Connection
  • The Future of Hop Growing in Wisconsin
  • Pairing Smoked Meats with Big Ales 

Three bands, all day music from Tumbling Bones
Local Favorites Eric Lewis and Tommy Burroughs
And rocking with Big Mouth

Friday, June 8, 2012

New and Fun at the Shop

Plenty of fresh stock is arriving!

Storage made from vintage linens and baubles!

Just for grins.

Fabulous Sterling rings!

Sweet little storage and pin board.

Little "Sweets" by Kris Bengener.